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20 Questions To Ask Your Significant Other

20 Questions To Ask Your Significant Other

If you need some ideas of questions to ask your significant other, we’ve got you covered! Whether you are starting a relationship, continuing a long-distance relationship, or just need some conversation topics, these questions are for you.

1. What Is Your Favorite Nickname?

This question can spark some great conversation with your significant other! They have an opportunity to share their favorite nickname and the story behind it. This is a great way to get a glimpse into their life before you, and you may learn some fun stories along the way!

2. What Is Your Love Language?

If you want to have a healthy relationship, you need to know your partner’s love language. This gives you ideas on how to pour into them and let them know they are important to you. You and your significant other will be challenged to invest in each other’s lives by asking this question.


3. What Are Your Strengths And Weaknesses?

One sign of maturity in a romantic partner is their ability to identify personal strengths and weaknesses. You and your partner need to be honest about your character flaws. This question is a great way to uncover any underlying issues in your partner’s life. If you have been in the relationship for a while, try to identify each other’s strengths and weaknesses. It is easy to criticize yourself. It is harder to criticize a romantic partner. This exercise may be uncomfortable, but it is vital to forming a healthy relationship.

4. What Are Your Expectations For This Relationship?

In any relationship, people need to share their expectations. Does your partner expect you to spend every free minute with them? Do they want an open-ended relationship? Are they ready for a long-term commitment? Don’t be afraid to ask this question, and be honest with your significant other about your expectations.


5. Why Did Your Last Relationship End?

Your partner does not have to share all the intimate details of their previous relationship, but it would be helpful for you to know the cause of the breakup. If they are still talking to their ex or spending time with them, that is a red flag. Your partner should be honest about the level of intimacy they reached with their ex, as well as their expectations for intimacy in your relationship.

If neither of you has been in a relationship, change the question. Ask your partner what their deal breakers are. Knowing their deal breakers will help you determine if the relationship can progress.

6. What Is Your Dream Vacation?

If you and your significant other enjoy traveling, this is a great question to spark conversation! Putting the concerns of money aside, talk about your individual dream vacations. This is another great way to see if you are relationally compatible. If you envision family vacations with the kids and she wants yearly trips to all-inclusive resorts, your dreams might not mesh well. If you both dream about cruising along the European coastline, then you can consider pursuing that dream together.


7. What Is Your Dream Job?

Even if you both have steady jobs, this question is another great way to spark conversation. If money was not an issue, what career would your partner pursue? You want to make sure that your career dreams line up. If they do not align, your relationship will not stay healthy for long.

8. What Would Your Superpower Be?

This is a great ice-breaker question! It may seem cheesy, but it can spark an interesting conversation. As your significant other lists superpowers, they may share about their favorite superhero or action movie. This may inspire you to make plans for a movie date night!


9. What Is The Best Gift You Have Ever Received?

If your partner’s love language is receiving gifts, they will love this question! Reminiscing on the gifts you have received can bring back so many fun memories. If they still have the gift, they might even show it to you! This question can give you a mental break and lighten the mood during serious conversations.

10. What Is Your Favorite Childhood Memory?

This question is sure to spark a story! Consider pulling out photo albums on your date and talking about your favorite memories. This is a great way to learn about your significant other’s life before you came along.

11. What Is Your Ideal Date Setting?

The point of going on dates is to get to know each other. This question will help you understand your partner’s ideals around dating. Do they prefer a Netflix and chill date? Do they like to play sports on a date? If your significant other has some date ideas that are outside your comfort zone, take this as an opportunity to try something new!


12. What Are Your Thoughts On Religion?

If you take your religion seriously, you need to ask this question. Your significant other might have a different set of beliefs, and you want to know that before the relationship gets serious. Will you attend church weekly? Will you raise your kids in church? Does your partner expect you to convert your beliefs? This question might raise some heavy topics, but it is better to address them sooner rather than later.

13. Where Do You See Yourself In Five Years?

This question can be a tough one to answer! Your partner’s response will help you gauge whether they are ready for a serious relationship. Listen to their answer and be honest about your dreams for the future. 

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14. Where Do You Want To Live In The Future?

Does your significant other have dreams of living on the other side of the world? Do they want to live close to family? Are they willing to stay in your hometown? These questions are very important ones to ask. If your dreams line up, you could be in for the adventure of a lifetime! 

15. Which Historical Figure Would You Invite To Dinner?

If your significant other is a history junkie, they will love this question! Plus, it can spark some interesting conversation around historical people and events. This question is perfect for quiet dinner dates if you need to fill the silence.


16. Do You Want Kids?

This is a very important question. If you and your partner are not on the same page about kids, you need to address that. There is nothing wrong with wanting a family or keeping it at just the two of you. Just make sure that you both are in agreement about whether you want to start a family. While you are on the subject, ask if they want pets. If you are a dog person and they dislike animals, the relationship might not work out. 

17. What Activities Are On Your Bucket List?

Ask your partner about the items on their bucket list! Is there a place they want to visit or a goal they want to achieve? You can even make a bucket list of the things you want to do as a couple!


18. What Is Your Favorite Season?

This is one of those questions that you will inevitably encounter in a couples’ game. Might as well find out the answer before you get to the game! Does your significant other prefer warm weather over cold weather? Do they have a favorite flower that only blooms in a certain season? You can learn some fun facts about your partner by asking this question.

19. What Is Your Favorite Movie?

Adding to the list of questions you will encounter in a couples’ game, ask about your partner’s favorite movie! You might make a list of movies that you want to watch together. Build a blanket fort, make some homemade pizza, and settle in for a cozy night together!

20. What Is Your Favorite Hobby?

This question can help you learn about your partner’s passions. If you both love to be outdoors, consider doing some of your outdoor hobbies on a date! If your partner has opposite hobbies from you, get outside your comfort zone and try something new! Asking this question is a great way to demonstrate genuine interest in your partner’s passions.


We hope this list of questions sparked some great conversation for you and your significant other! If there are any questions we missed, let us know in the comments!

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